Ask a Climate Therapist: How do I deal with friends and family who won’t stop polluting?

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by Leslie Davenport

February 20, 2026

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Dealing with friends and family who continue to engage in behaviors that harm the environment can be deeply frustrating and emotionally taxing for those who prioritize climate action. Leslie Davenport, a leading climate-aware therapist, offers guidance on navigating these challenging relationships while maintaining your values and emotional well-being. She emphasizes that it’s natural to feel anger and grief when loved ones don’t align with your environmental efforts, but it’s crucial to find balance and set boundaries. Davenport suggests starting by considering different perspectives. Your family or friends may view their climate responsibility differently—perhaps through political advocacy, supporting sustainable initiatives, or reducing consumption in other ways. Understanding where they stand can help you approach conversations with curiosity rather than judgment. However, if their actions feel like a betrayal, it’s important to recognize that you cannot force others to change. Instead of trying to convince them constantly, focus on selective honesty. Share your feelings calmly, such as, “I struggle when I see [specific behavior] because it upsets me,” and allow the conversation to unfold naturally without pushing for immediate agreement. Investing energy in communities or groups that align with your values can help mitigate burnout and keep you motivated. Davenport highlights the importance of finding emotional support networks where your efforts are recognized and appreciated. This approach allows you to

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Originally published on Grist on 2/20/2026